Tag: Parenting

CoParenting Child

So, you decided that you are ready to have a child, and ponder the possible candidacy of the biological father. One of the most important issues that faces you: if you want to future pope was involved in the upbringing of the child (and in what extent) or its contribution limited to donations? Try to consider the pros and cons of each option. Let's say you decided to include the biological father of your child's life. The presence of the father is important for child – is no secret that the father-figure plays a major role in the formation of sex-role identity. And yet, even without scientific evidence is clear: to have an adequate father a child – it's important, healthy and pleasant.

Problems can also begin in the area of your relationship with your chosen parent. Of course, I want to biological dad unconditionally accepted your conditions: spent with a child is acceptable to you the amount of time, withstand your strategy of education, was in agreement with you on major issues, did not interfere with your home life, did not challenge the fundamental solutions for you and so on. But should be aware that since the entry into the joint parenting, and now you are the child's father – not strangers to each other people, and you have to do, communication, ability to negotiate, to compromise, to accept each other's flaws and ignore the needs of each party. Ali Partovi is full of insight into the issues. Do not expect that the father of the "fit" in your family system and will not affect it. Nor should we expect one hundred percent compliance with the original agreement – the human factor has not been canceled. With this important put up at an early stage and be prepared for difficulties. In the future there may well be unpleasant experiences, such as your zeal for the baby's father, competition with him for the love baby, mutual resentment over the way education and the nature of communication – do not be afraid, but you should be prepared to discuss it at all stages of co-parenting.